means any loss of sexual interest or sexual desire etc. It simply means being unable to achieve an erection long enough to have intercourse, and since masterbation does not require achieving erections so hence watching porn videos and masterbating instead of having sex.
Even admitting to yourself that you have an erection problem is one of the hardest things for most men to do, let alone talking about it to your wife or doctor etc. In my case, I never did get up the guts to actually come out and tell my doctor that I was having erection problems. I went to the doctor with my wife one night due to some bronchial infection she had. And while the doctor was writing her a precription I made a joke to him about needing some Viagra too. He just stared up at me for a moment and then he wrote me one. I guess he understood just how embaressing it can be for some men to talk even to their doctor about it!!
My advice to you is to calmly and lovingly sit him down and talk to him regarding your problem, and tell him that it both of your problem and not only his. And then urge him to see the doctor, even go with him.
Also reassure him that ED is a “Medical Problem that happens to many men and just like with any other medical problem it is nothing to be ashamed of or embaressed to seek medical help for. And also tell him that most cases of ED are usually solved by simply using products like Viagra,Levitra, and Cialis etc.
and went to my doctor complaining of lack of sex drive and the inability to climax while having sex w/my wife. I too went to porn to get off which I could do manually, with alot of work. (Although I liked getting off w/the vids, which I don’t know if my wife knows about, I like having sex w/my wife.) I also thought that my problem may be related to having been circumcised as an infant, so before I went to the doc (a year or more) I explored the possibility of finding a way to increase sensitivity; I began restoring my foreskin (I am two and a half years into a 3.5 year process – sensitivity has increased and I like the look). I finally went to my doc when things did not improve. He tested me for low Testosterone; my levels were in the basement. This allowed my doc to get approval from my insurance for a script for Viagra; samples provided worked great.
More recently I have also been diagnosed w/Sleep Apnea, which explains my lack of energy and may/could also be related to the low T and libido. My lack of energy could also be related to my T level still being too low. First I have to control the Apnea to convince my doc that the Apnea is controlled.
So what am I saying? I’m not sure. It sounds like you and your husband are not alone. His/your pattern is somewhat like mine. You need to convince him to talks to his doc and get his blood levels measured. There are so many different things that could be wrong. He should not be shy w/you or his doc.
(My wife’s problem is with the lack of spontaneity. We now make arrangements for “dates.” I also have a problem w/this lack of spontaneity; I am occasionally upset when a prearranged time is pushed to a different day; sometimes I have taken a little blue pill only to be told now is not the time. All worked up and nowhere to go.)
I hope this is coherent and helps you.
give him onions in plenty and it will work to arise his desire.
Hello! I am married, and my spouse suffers from ED. This is very confusing to me and I really need help and have knowone to turn too. You see, my spouse doesn’t want to talk about it. I know he feels like “less of a man” because of this problem, but I don’t see him that way. It hurts me because he doesn’t look to make love to me any more and avoids the hole sex thing. I know he watches porn and masterbates to that, which hurts me very much not to mention gets me very mad. I can’t get him to top watching it. Do most men who suffer from this do that? Is that kinda normal? I would think this would make things worse, in the sense, perhaps when he takes Viagra it may work much better because there is more excitement of having sex and getting, relief, sexually. Please help me I feel just terrible all inside. I have been very understanding, I mean, it is not like any men would want this, so to me it is like any other unpleasant thing. I came here, because you are men and hopefully can give me some truth about my questions. I can’t seem to get a answer out of him or get him to go see a doctor. I look forward to your replys. I love him and feel just because this happened to him, which he had this problem before I meet him and married him, that it is something we can work on together and he is not alone.
i am aged 54 and suffering from impotence for the last 10 years. I am having various health problems. i am taking Zen retard 2 tabs daily,Eptoin 2 tabs daily, Nebicard 5mg once daily, buy Tadalafil tablets, sorbitrate 10mg twice daily. Iunderstand that those who take sorbitrate should not take Viagra.. My question is whether I can stop taking sorbitrate for a day and take a trial with Viagra for my erection dysfunction.
a well-trained caring physician near your home. Ask around at work and elsewhere for someone with a bedside manner. Then check him out with your county medical society: is he a member, where was he trained, is he board certified, etc.? Then go from there. Eric’s advice was also good. Don’t let anyone talk you into surgery until you’ve tried the other modalities, including injections if necessary. I don’t blame you for being disappointed and pissed off at your experience with the expert in VA.
which causes blood vessels to relax so blood flow will increase. For this reason, NO is also a tablet some people take to lower blood pressure. You might want to google this and check into it. I’m not a doctor. In theory, if your blood pressure drops too much, your heart will try and compensate by increasing its rate. So, if you have a systolic blood pressure that runs around 90, this might be an issue for you. Most men don’t run that low though.
Anyone have any experience travelling with Trimix? The meds are supposed to be kept cold but how am I supposed to travel with them? Any suggestions? Thanks.
I have kept trimix (order from Canadian Online Pharmacy) loaded in syringes at room temperature for several days without any noticable decrease in effectiveness. I suggest you load as many syringes as you will need on the trip and just put them in your luggage. When you get to your destination, refrigerate them if possible.
Hi, I have traveled with my shots, and I just put an ice pack that you by from the drug store into a ziplock bag with the shots, then I wrap it in a towel. That will keep it cold enough until you get where you’re going.
Thanks, Tom K.
I used Trimix for a couple of years, and traveled with it. I had a very small thermos bottle and would put the vial in with some ice and took it on the planes as carry-on. No problems. I would pack the syringes separately.
Hmmm, I don’t think they will let you on a plane with a thermos anymore. Tom K.
They say you can take up to 5000mg daily, but not if you can help it. I tried Arginine pyroglutamate recently and you only have to take 500mg twice a day to achieve the same results. At least, it worked that way for me. I also take 50mg of grape seed extract once a day. This combination works well for me. I don’t know about combining them with viagra, etc. I’d really consult a physician if you’re on any blood pressure meds like nitro before taking Arginine though.
Do you have any issues discussing your erectile disfucntion?
In five weeks I have my second appt. with my new doc, who happens to be a woman. I am have some stress about talking about this issue and having a complete physical examination. I am sure this is much ado about nothing, but it is on my mind, on occasion. More frequently as time gets close for this exam.
I kinda try to make her blush but and she new me when it worked and I blushed then.But she checked all that and she said it was all good?? I will check and see if she used the old or new. I have one problem she is a V.A. Doctor (veterans administration) Government run so she may be doing just enough to get buy. Are there key words or ways to know if she is. or things to ask I can get past if necessary. I am as I call some doctor dummy they say yellow polka dots and I believe them. I always tell people ask questions if they say it want work don’t stop asking questions till you get a good answer. And I didn’t even if it was a male doctor I guess I still would of froze.I had read where high blood,medications,hi sugar, fat would cause this problem and I froze.As long as they don’t say its broke for good then I am OK and if I don’t ask questions then they can’t check and find it broke.Don’t Know Don’t Waneta know its
dumb.Know man wants to know his toy know matter how scribbled up its gotten is broke
for word and I know where you’re coming from. I have seen psychiatries and therapist and they say find other in tress Well kinda sorta there is no replacement for the smell or feeling warmth.Now other in tress helps to a point If you’re single “And here comes the dumb part Find a Lesbian Friend I know it sounds dumb and it is not easy to find you have to put an add in DUMBER But they don’t want sex but will play with you some times they only want companionships. They want the same thing you want some one to come home to they have the smell and you have a Friend for life and they don’t care if you have leper icy you got the smell an warmth AND they love to talk and listen. Another way to go I said it was DUMB I diden’t say I was brightest bulb in the pack
so you and your husband are in a very large group of people. Your husband needs a full sexual medicine workup to determine what is behind and causing his ED. Failing to have it checked out can be deadly. Studies show that ED is a warning sign for severe cardio-vascular desease and should not be ignored. Bob may be suffering from Hypogonadism which is comon to all men as we age, but can be severe and show up in even young men.
I was diagnosed at 38 years old. Hypogonadism is a deficiency in testosterone production and as a man’s levels decrease, it slowly sneaks up and starts to affect sex drive, erections, lipid levels, and at low levels is responcible for depression, poor sleep, adds fat deposits, and causes weakening and thinning in the bones. A simple blood tests can detect this cause. Other tests that are run are a dopler ultrasound to measure the function of the blood vessels in the penis. An injection of Tri-mix is injected and after an erection is produced, the radiologists is able to see via ultrasound whether their is leakage in the veins of the penis. Another test is a penile tumescence test to see if your husband is experiencing nightly erections and how strong they are. And lastly is a psychological test to determine if he has psychological issues with sex or with fear of failure. Following these tests, their are pharmaceuticals that can be prescribed to assist in producing an erection such as cialis, viagra and vardenafil. Sometime just supplementing with testosterone gel renews sexual desire and brings back erections. With the tests, their are medical conditions that may be needing treatment such as hidden High Blood pressure, diabetes, or even something as simple as changing your husbands medications. Prescription medications can play havoc with a man’s sexual desire or give a man erection problems. If all of these treatments fail to restore his sex drive or fix his erection problems, then their are vasoactive drugs that can be injected into the penis which are very effective at producing erections. I used injections very successfully for 13 years for my ED. If all of the above fails to work, then there is the surgical implantation of a penile implant which enjoys a very high satisfaction rate among implantees. I had implant surgery a month and a half ago and have just started using my implant for sex with a good time enjoyed by both me and my wife. On this board their are dozens of men and their spouses who have battled sexual dysfunction for many years.
I’ve had it for 14 years due to juvenile diabetes for the past 21 years. My marriage is very important to me and sharing myself in a loving sexual manner is what helps to keep my marriage strong.
Facing the problem at the onset is a tough time for couples and it often doesn’t get easier over time. What gets you through is two peoples commitment to each other. Being best friends willing to walk side by side and realizing that it’s not my problem or your problem. It’s OUR problem to face together. So please get your husband to see a urologist. Even better a Sexual Medicine Clinic that specializes in sexual medicine. People in those types of clinics are very kind and understanding and specialize in fixing sexual problems. This is not an isolated problem that only you are experiencing. As people age, it becomes a growing issue affecting more and more people. If you want to reply and correspond confidentially, I’ve listed my email address. I’ve been through it all and I find nothing funny about your problem. It hurts a lot.
Also there are people on this board who can advise you who’s good near where you live to see. There are other very good people on this board who also can give you good advise, but start out first with having your husband get a very good and complete physical exam. For some men, it’s a life saver in finding hidden, underlying issues that can be deadly if not caught early.
by blocking the action of hydrogen peroxide, and that H2O2 is a cancer promoter? In view of this finding, you can see why I’m reluctant to ingest food-grade H202?
On the other hand Dr. W’m Douglas Campbell, and others, claim(s) that H202 fights cancer.
How can people be expected to experiment with a purported therapeutic method which some people think promotes cancer, while other people believe it fights cancer?
The dispute isn’t over whether H202 ingestion, even 3% H202, causes a headache, it’s over whether it has the potential of causing “cancer.” Whatever you elect to do with H202, we certainly need to look more carefully at this debate, because we may be taking a huge risk.
I propose that we look at the theory, at the evidence, such as it is, for and against the ingestion of H202. Let’s look for the researchers anddoctors, the theorists and nutritionists that have provided substantial writings on this topic. That’s what I intend to do, starting very soon. Something is wrong with this picture.
Either one side or the other in this debate has done some poor research, misinterpreted the evidence, is relying on inadequate evidence, are failing to take certain things into account, etc. I have no idea what the situation is, but I’m guessing that H202 ingestion may be desirable in treating illnesses, “under certain circumstances,” but not in other cases. Perhaps there are ways of protecting ourselves from the dangers, so that we can reap the benefits of H202. Maybe there’s a safe dose, which varies for different people…and on and on.
I would openly find so many men with the same problem. Thank you all for your responses. Here is a little story that just happend to me the other day:
A week ago I got a call from a woman I hadnt seen or heard of for 25 years. Way back then we had a short but intensiv relationship. Her son was going to have a birth day party and knowing that I had a son In the same age she invited us. I went there myself kind of nervous about seeing her and a lot of people I dont know. Any thougt of seducing her was out of the question from my part. I have more and more ruled that out of my life. And in private life I shun socialintercourse. So I went there cursing myself in the car for not staying at home. Our first encounter was quiet formel but I was astonished to see that she still was so beautifull. Throu the day she was mostly occupied with other guests and not taking any particular notice of me. Then in the early evening while I was planning my sorti waiting for the right occassion leave and glad that I had survived the day and even being able to be amiable and sociable despite my tormented soul someone put the music on and instantly she suddenly grabbed my hand and towed me out to the dance floor. It didnt take very long until we were dancing cheek to cheek and I felt her lovely fragrance again. Pretty soon we looked deep into one and others eyes.
It was as if those 25 years that seperated us never had existed. It became a magical Swedish summer night. We must have danced for houres tightly together and me drowning in her eyes and lips. Once in a while the insight came over me; here I am with a beautiful woman in my arms who wants me and there is absolutly no reaction in my dick. I was able to brush this aside.But later I had to tell her that in a manner of speaking I no longer was a man. At that moment it didnt seem that she cared. And after a while she took me by the hand again and led me upp to her bedroom. Everything was served on a silver platter, a lucious naked woman in bed waiting for me. Do you think I got it upp? No. But I gave her as god a time I could. In the morning I take azithromycin 500mg and I had to leave early but I woke her and asked if we could see each other again. I could see in her eyes that this probably wasnt going to be, that it was only meant to be this one wonderfull warm and starspangeld night.
I can live with it being this only time. Feeling a woman in my arms again was not an option in my world a few hours earlier. But even if you satisfy your woman there is still something very essentiallacking, there is a feeling of emptyness due to that this short encounter of love and desire never was really completed never reached its climax. Im greatfull for that night but it also leaves me with a bitter feeling of sorrow and longing. But I guess it was worth the pain I now feel. For that night I was alive again.
I´ll be back
read about a FDA citing on false claims made for its effectivness I think from what I can determine its only 1 or 2 percent improvment over plain oll cheap aspirin need to look deeper anyone have any ideas Lee any scoop on this drug.
I have read enough about it that I am willing to try it only makes sense that some of that extra oxygen will get into your blood, also it is said that it helps clear the lungs,even people with enphazyma find relief. What really got me interested again, was reading where Baylor U in Texas conducted experiments, with Intravenous use and were successful at clearing an artery. This was in the 1960′s , why it was not continued I don’t know dropped like everything else,when angioplasty, Cholesterol mania came along I guess.
I wish you would try something, since you are exercising again You know when to expect pain with certain level of exercise, try taking Oral h202 with water, and see if it makes any improvement as to the duration of the regimen.
That is take the h202 before you begin, 5 drops of 35% in a glass of water to start with.
Don’t expect a miracle but you should notice a difference. You know the formula I believe, 3 times a day as above then increase by one drop every day of so,on empty stomach, or 3 hrs after eating.
Again my thinking is ,if you can’t get more blood to the heart, you might get more available Oxygen into the blood that does get to the heart.
that it clears up arterial congestion, or can relieve angina is some other way?
If this is a realistic claim, it might be worth our while to travel to, and stay in an area where such a therapy would be administered for the time necessary to get results. I know I’d do it. I’m still planning to make a search for this therapy and therapists anywhere near Los Angeles, if they exist.
Los Angeles is something of a Mecca for alternative health movements and theories.
I’m considering re-visiting Guggulipid, from the Guggul plant, believed to reduce the unhealthy cholesterol fractions, LDL and triglycerides, and total cholesterol when too high, as well as increasing HDL, but the stuff is prohibitively expensive, and there’s no assurance it works. It usually costs about a buck a day.
There’s much controversy about the importance of these cholesterol fractions and numbers, and the manner in which they impact on our heart health.
I’ll have to search out information I have about another herb, recommended to me, by a reputable nutrition doctor, which she told me, might be effective against angina as treatment of bacterial contagions with Azithromycin 500mg or 250mg. There’s a lot out there for us, but what works for me may not work for someone else, and vice versa. You just have to keep looking.
I’ve gotten to exercising again, with increasing improvement, but still with much pain. As long as I’m willing to endure the pain, my walking tends to improve, and the pain eventually begins to subside. I’m going to try to get 45 minutes of moderately fast walking (about 3 mph), which my research seems to support doing about 5 days a week.
I’ve taken H202 orally, but suspect that IV treatments would be far more powerful and effective.
I once tried taking in oxygen from a tank via a tube to my nasal passages, as I was exercising on a rower. I didn’t experience any improvement. But I’m not sure I was doing this in the most effective way.
Let us know if you get results, and how you do it.
Angina pain occurs because the coronary artery ,one or more are blocked. Limiting the amount of blood that can pass through to the heart and limiting the amount of Oxygen the heart receives.
Since we cannot force more blood through the blocked artery, can we put more Oxygen in the Blood that does get through and accomplish to some degree the same thing.
I am experimenting with this now, and I think it works.
the ramping “T” effect. However my “T” was so low at one point that the internist I see said that it was the lowest he had ever seen. My TSH and LH were sky high but came down after I was on testosterone for a while. The endocrinologist said I had Testicular failure. The urologist I see says that there is strong evidence that Testosterone protects the prostate from BPH however I read it increases the level of cancer I wonder if any of them know what is going on but, I am hypogonadal and most would defend HRT as a problem in such case. I really wonder.
Anyway you are correct that depression takes a toll. I would argue though that the effect is loss of sensation and without sensation it is very boring and hard to maintain an erection. Plus there is the loss of complete emotional feeling in deep depression. Though some would argue that depression heightens emotion the medical community defines it as loss of emotion due to loss of neurotransmitters Serotonin, and nor-ephinephrine which are also conductors in sexual nerves as well. I can’t say I understand it but, I understand it’s effect.
I believe the biggest contributor to my ED is my blood pressure med. I have discovered that if I don’t take it I can get a full erection and maintain it. However, there is no avoiding it, it is the only BP med that I have ever taken that worked with no other side effect I can identify otherwise. I don’t have extremely high pressure as that goes, only systolic is high. It normally runs 120-130/100. All of the heart and BP studies indicate I have a heart electrical anomaly that prevents my heart from recoiling completely between beats. I also have a long family history of heart failure so not taking it is not an option. Another complicating factor is that I have migraines and all of the orals effect them.
I am learning to live with less sex. When I want it a small injection of papaverine does wonders. Unless I have let myself go into severe depression which will always cause me intense problems all around. I think that any one who tries to deal depression themselves is foolish.
I thought for years that I could deal with it and it was somehow weakness to see a psychiatrist. In retrospect I wish I had seen one thirty years ago. I would probably have saved myself a lot of grief.
I would say my ED has impacted our marriage, but we still enjoy sex, injections mostly. My wife is also 62, and she still very much enjoys sex, but not pushy since she knows the surgery and the impotence have been very upsetting to me emotionally.
We have sex less often, but for rehab, and pleasure purposes, I mast daily, and I”m able to get off on my own much easier than I do with her. I think this is not unusual, and she accepts it, I am able to get her off many times. My wife is not real aggressive sexually, and i’m still fucking her some, so I”m not sure how she’d feel if she lost sex all together. I guess it depends on the woman. I know a cousin whose wife thinks sexual dysfunction happens for a good reason, she is happy if it stops. Not me.
I know a man can have stones in the prostate gland but I’ve been told they never come out. I’m thinking a good urologist should be able to give you some insight to what’s going on or if he doesn’t know do some research to find out more and help you with your problem.
Hi, I’m a new on this blog and I’m 58, and have had ED and Impotence for many years, but I still try, although 99% of the time I don’t ever get to ejaculate.Now tadalafil 20mg pills, generic cialis are best for me, also a few years ago I used viagra. I usually can get to the pre-cum stage, and it seems like it’s right around then that I get these small, dark particles coming out of my penis. They feel hard, except for a mucous-like coating. The color is dark red/brown.
I’ve told my primary care doctor about this=no comment
I’ve told my new urologist twice=no comment
I searched the net, but only found mention of light yellow colored cysts that don’t seem to match my condition
My question is= is there anybody on this blog\forum who has had anything similar to (or heard of anything) like these dark particles I’m getting?
Maybe I’ll get this urologist’s attention when I tell him I’m switching to a different urologist.
you will still be able to climax but your orgasm will be dry. It will feel just as good according to what everyone tells me. Some men are able to get erections post op by using pills (but not too many work) others use a VED (Vacuum Erection Device) which works pretty well. Google Osbon, Rejoyn etc for more info. I think you might also want to Google Trimix (Injections) and of course the Penile Prosthesis surgery. There are two companies in the US that I know of that have these. They are Coloplast and AMS. These allow you to get erections when you want and for as long as you wish. I’ve been looking into this and almost everyone that I talk to says they wish they had done it sooner.
Anyway, do lots of reading and talk to your GP and or a Urologist / Surgeon and find out whats out there.
Prostate Cancer is NOT the end of your sex life.
I read about it on the computer while looking up the Brigham ans Women’s Hospital in Boston, MA (they treat men, too) They seem to have a major urology department and are a prize-winning hospital, too. They have a robotically controlled Prostate Vaporization treatment, which is supposed to use lasers and be very precise. It’s used in nerve-sparing prostate treatment. They deal with a lot of other urology/prostate subjects, like arterial blood flow to the penis, venous leak detection, nerve diagnosis of the penis.
I read that they have some kind of new “fabric” that they can wrap into tiny tube shapes, and put one end of a broken nerve in one end, and the same with the other end, and the “fabric” induces the nerves to grow and re-attach. They’re working on a “fake penis”, too. It seems to be quite the place to go. I intend to go there at some point. (I wish they’d make a fake prostate gland that was installable) That sounds like a good idea to me.
By the way, thanks for your comments. They are appreciated.
a phase III drug trial, finasteride 5mg and during one of their examinations they found that I had an abdominal aortic aneurysm. They found it while doing a sonogram of my abdomen. I went to the Vascular Clinic of my hospital and they scheduled me for surgery. That was before they had stents they could use to repair the problem so it required major surgery which was just as big a problem as was my bypass surgery. The surgery went well and they installed a goretex graph inside the aorta to reinforce the place that was weakened. Since the surgery, I have never had any problem with it.
However, if it had not been repaired it probably would have ruptured at some point and I would have died before I could have reached the emergency room.
for any disease or overall health. However an Aneurysm in the Aorta, is life threatening on a major scale this is no time to begin a cure based on Vitamins and Minerals,and Diet which takes a great deal of time to work or help.
Of course I urge anyone not taking Vitamin and minerals at optimal levels to do so but in this case she needs a Medical Specialist.
I’ve been a bit busy and neglected to respond for a while. Sorry. Well, I went ahead and ordered BOTH the Actis band and the erecxel ring from some website (nfsno.org canadian pharmacy no rx) that happened to sell each one, saving on the shipping costs. This may just be my experience, but the Actis was pretty much a waste of money. It doesn’t really do much to help my erection, it’s bulky and uncomfortable, and too often if slides off or loosens. I do not recommend Actis band from my experiences. Erecxel, on the other hand, works better than any other ring I’ve tried out. It isn’t a miracle product that cures ed or anything, but it’s fairly easy to use and increases and maintains a bit of hardness to that guy downstairs. It took me a session or two to break it in, but has worked nicely since then. I DO recommend the Erecxel cock ring. I’m not anyway affiliated with either one of these products or companies; just giving an honest customer’s review of them.
I am now 41 and I have always been very sexual…never had a problem with erections or anything. Used to have them constantly and could orgasm a few times a day. I wound up getting married 11 years ago to a woman that had liked sex while we were going out and living together but the old saying about “when you say ‘I do’, they don’t” is too true in this case. Throughout the years she would constantly turn me down and always have some sort of weak excuse and I wound up having to literally take matters into my own hands in order to get any type of satisfaction. Whenever I discussed this with her (or tried to) I would hear how it is my problem to deal with. She doesn’t like sex as much as I do and I’m weird for wanting it once a week or more. She put it all on me and said I should just learn to deal with it. So I was supposed to accept that sex 4 or 5 times a year would be enough. At 30 years old, this was just not acceptable and still isn’t….I’m older…not dead.
As time went by, she packed on the pounds and finally (about 2 years ago) it all got to the point where I decided that I am tired of being turned down and told that it’s my problem and the weight…I’m not talking a little extra…I’m talking 350 pounds….the weight became a turn off for me on top of everything else. I finally decided I was done even trying with her and I told her so.
Anyway…a few months after that, she tried it with me and I figured I would give it a shot…but I didn’t stay hard inside her and gave up. I assumed this was because of my mindset and the fact that she didn’t excite me or turn me on so I figured no problem. I was still able to get hard most of the time by myself and take care of things that way.
Anyway, to shorten this a little, over some time my erections started not being so hard all the time. When I would masturbate, it became more frequent that I could get hard, but couldn’t maintain it. I didn’t worry too much as I figured the home situation with my wife was affecting me adversely. I was a moderator on a message board and made some “friends” online. About a year ago, I became particularly close to this one woman and we talked a lot online and on the phone. We fell for each other over a long period of time. She was literally everything I looked for in a woman. She is beautiful, extremely sexy, smart, funny…suffice it to say she was everything I had wanted since I discovered women…and on top of that, she is 10 years younger than I am.
We wound up meeting for a weekend and we got along as well as we had thought we would…it was all very perfect…almost perfect…I couldn’t get hard for her at all…nothing…we did things and I satisfied her with other means and she liked it but she felt bad that she couldn’t make me hard. She was very understanding as well and it wasn’t much of a problem for her…but it was for me. Although I enjoyed what we did and in my mind, I was turned on like crazy, I was unable to get an erection and I feel like I let her down. We still talk and we plan on being together eventually when things come around for us. I have to finish my divorce and she needs to finish some schooling she is doing. We plan to meet again in a short time also…so things are still going well for us…but not for me.
When I try to masturbate now, more often than not, no matter how turned on I am, I wind up going soft as soon as I try to take care of it. Most of the time I can finish but it takes a lot and I am usually not all that hard. I can’t get hard by just looking at something or thinking about something and I need to actually have some stimulation to get an erection but it’s been this way for years and I always figured that just comes with getting older. I went to my doctor and talked about this a little and they agreed that my situation at home was the cause…but I left out the detail that I had met someone and it didn’t work for her as this doctor knows my wife too and I didn’t need to take any chances. The doctor gave me Cialis to try and it worked fine for me…It worked great in fact. However, this is not my solution as far as I am concerned. Sure, it’s a band-aid I suppose and I can use it when I meet this woman again but I know there is more to this problem as it has really happened over the last year and a half and seems to be getting worse. The wake up call was when I couldn’t get an erection when I was faced with the sexiest woman I have ever known…THAT scared me.
I have had tests for certain things over the last year and I am not diabetic so that is not an issue. High blood pressure is not an issue either. I could stand to lose a little weight but overall, I’m not fat. I’m a little out of shape but have been for years so that is nothing new. Could anyone guide me as to what may be wrong or what I could try or maybe what my next step should be? Any help in this would be greatly appreciated and I thank you all in advance for any help you can give me. I also apologize for this being so long but I thought I should give as much detail as possible.
For those guys that are helped by VED, is your problem “INFLOW” problems?
I have venous leakage due to penile fibrosis (scar tissue) so i have an outflow problem. The VED doesn’t work…I can get hard with …the VED can get me close to 100% erect, but the minute it is taken away, i lose my erection…. With scar tissue, the penis doesn’t expand fully enough to trap the veins; the VED temporarily expands it fully , but the penis smooth muscles are not elastic and healthy, so the scar tissue just reverses any expansions the VED achieves. Does that make sense? Think of a baloon with elastic bands around it….
I think the distinction is ACHIEVING an erection (guys with INFLOW problems — heart disease, etc) and MAINTAINING an erection (guys with an OUTFLOW problem – scar tissue causing venous leakage). VED works best for guys with INFLOW problems, but is only marginally beneficially to guys with OUTFLOW problems.
Same with Injections — i know there are guys on this support blog are BIG SUPPORTS OF INJECTIONS…but they simply aren’t so effective on guys with OUTFLOW problems. Guys swear with injections they get erections lasting hours, hard as when they are teenagers. I”m SOOOOOO JEALOUS when I hear that…I’ve dont bimix, trimix, caverject, muse, VED, cockrings….these things just doesn’t help me MAINTAIN an erection because of the scar tissue.
Not to long ago Solomes2 stated that he was going to get a vacumn pump and would perhaps give a demo. I am very interested in seeing him or someone do a demo of the vacumn pump. I have never used one and I feel that others would also like to see a demo on how it works. As an ED sufferer myself I would be interested in any and all options.
Please advice me, what is the effect of taking Andriol 40mg or sustanon 250 on the testicales efficincey for producing testesterone, as i have low teststerone level which is affecting my penies eriction.